Returning to work after having a baby can feel like stepping into a new world with a suitcase full of emotions you didn’t quite pack for. Whether you’re counting down the days with anticipation, dread, or a confusing mix of both, one thing is certain: this season requires a lot of grace, planning, and community. At 5StarMums, we see you. We know the mental and emotional gymnastics many mothers perform just to make it all work. And we’re here to help.
In this blog post, we’ll walk through practical ways to help you transition back to work after maternity leave with confidence, calm, and compassion.
(P.S. If you’re more of a listener, this blog post also comes alive in our podcast episode on Spotify: Preparing for the Return to Work: Tips and Strategies – listen here)
Why the Return to Work Hits Harder Than You Expect
Let’s talk about it, leaving your baby after spending weeks or months together can be heart-wrenching. You’re not just “going back to work” you’re stepping into a new identity, juggling career goals with sleep schedules, breastfeeding pumps with boardroom meetings.
If you feel anxious, emotional, or even guilty, know this: you’re not alone, and your feelings are valid but also know this: with the right support and strategy, you can thrive.
1. Start Preparing Early (Even If It’s Just Mentally)
The earlier you begin to prepare, the easier the transition will be. You don’t need to map out every detail overnight, but start by asking yourself:
- What do I need to feel emotionally ready?
- Who can support me at home and at work?
- What kind of childcare arrangement do I feel most at peace with?
Start small, build up, give yourself time to process the shift.
2. Have Honest Conversations with Your Employer
Whether you’re working in Lagos, London, or Los Angeles, transparency is powerful.
Before returning, set up a meeting with your manager or HR rep, share your current needs and explore options such as:
- Phased return (e.g., part-time or half-days for the first few weeks)
- Flexible hours or remote work options
- Pumping breaks and lactation space access
You don’t have to overshare, but you do have a right to work with dignity and compassion during this season.
3. Set Boundaries, Not Guilt Traps
This is one of the most important strategies, mama.
Once you return to work, set realistic boundaries. Not every email must be answered at midnight, not every extra task needs your “yes.” your time is sacred, your mental health is essential.
And no, protecting your energy doesn’t make you “less committed.” It makes you sustainable for your family and your future.
4. Build Your Support Village
No one was meant to do motherhood or work alone.
Whether it’s your spouse, your sister, your neighbour, your nanny, or your therapist, identify your key players. Delegate what you can, ask for help before you burn out.
If you’re in Nigeria, consider joining 5StarMums WhatsApp group where you can find a judgment-free space to vent, laugh, cry, and get advice in real-time.
5. Take Care of Your Mental Health
Returning to work can trigger feelings of depression, overwhelm, or anxiety especially if you’re still healing from postpartum depression or navigating past trauma, be gentle with yourself.
Seek help if you need it. Therapy is not weakness; it’s wisdom and if you’re not sure where to start, tune into our podcast where we regularly speak with psychologists, mothers, and experts about managing mental health in motherhood.
🎧 Listen to the full podcast episode on Spotify: Preparing for the Return to Work – 5StarMums Podcast
6. Celebrate the Wins (Even the Tiny Ones)
Some days, your biggest win might be just showing up other days, you’ll crush that presentation and pump milk in between meetings like the rockstar you are. Both days are worth celebrating.
So take a deep breath. You’re doing better than you think.
Final Thoughts
Returning to work is a massive transition but it’s also an opportunity to reclaim your power, redefine your rhythm, and remind yourself just how resilient you are.
At 5StarMums, we believe you can work and mother, with grace and grit. You just need a plan, support, and a reminder that you’re never alone on this journey.
We’re here for you every step of the way.
✨ Don’t forget to share this blog with another mum who might need it, and follow us on Instagram @5starmums for daily encouragement, and remember, the full conversation continues on our podcast. Tap to listen on Spotify: Preparing for the Return to Work – 5StarMums Podcast
“Don’t go through mumming alone.”
FK Jesuyode
Founder, 5StarMums
