The Big Sleep Dilemma
If you’re a new parent, chances are you’ve lost sleep over one big question: Where should my baby sleep?
Should you snuggle up together in the same bed, keep your baby’s crib in your room, or encourage them to sleep in their own space from day one? Every parent has an opinion, and the internet is full of conflicting advice.
But here’s the thing—there’s no one right answer. The best sleep arrangement is the one that works for your baby, your family, and your sanity.
In this post, we’ll break down the pros and cons of co-sleeping and independent sleeping to help you make the best choice. And if you want to learn more, don’t forget to check out our podcast, “Co-Sleeping vs. Independent Sleeping,” streaming now on Spotify!
What is Co-Sleeping?
Co-sleeping simply means that your baby sleeps close to you. This could be:
✔ Bed-sharing – Your baby sleeps in the same bed as you.
✔ Room-sharing – Your baby sleeps in a crib or bassinet near your bed.
Why Parents Love Co-Sleeping
- Easier Nighttime Feeds – No need to stumble down the hall at 2 AM. Your baby is right there!
- Stronger Bonding – Many parents feel closer to their baby when they sleep nearby.
- More Sleep (for Some!) – Some babies sleep better when they sense a parent’s presence.
Why Some Parents Avoid It
- Safety Concerns – Bed-sharing can increase the risk of suffocation and SIDS if not done safely.
- Sleep Disruptions – Babies move, make noises, and sometimes kick!
- Difficult Transitions – Some babies get so used to co-sleeping that moving them to their own space later can be a struggle.
What is Independent Sleeping?
Independent sleeping means your baby sleeps in their own crib, in a separate room or nursery.
Why Parents Love Independent Sleeping
- Better Sleep for Everyone – Some parents and babies sleep more soundly when they’re not waking each other up.
- Encourages Self-Soothing – Babies learn to settle themselves instead of relying on mum or dad.
- Safe Sleep Environment – No blankets, pillows, or soft surfaces near your baby means a lower risk of sleep-related issues.
Why Some Parents Struggle with It
- More Night Wakings (at First) – Babies often wake up and cry when they’re not used to sleeping alone.
- Less Immediate Comfort – You’ll need to get up and soothe your baby if they wake up upset.
- Guilt & Worries – Some parents feel bad about not being physically close to their baby at night.
So…Which One is Better?
Honestly? Neither. It all depends on what works for your family.
- If you love the idea of keeping your baby close and feeding is easier that way, co-sleeping might be for you.
- If you need solid sleep and want to encourage independence early on, independent sleeping could be a great fit.
- If you’re torn, room-sharing can give you the best of both worlds!
Making Sleep Safer (No Matter What You Choose)
- Always put your baby on their back to sleep.
- Use a firm mattress with no pillows, blankets, or stuffed animals.
- If co-sleeping, never do it on a couch, soft bed, or with heavy bedding.
- Avoid bed-sharing if you’ve been drinking, smoking, or taking medications that make you drowsy.
- If independent sleeping, keep the crib clear and follow safe sleep guidelines.
Final Thoughts: Do What Feels Right
Parenting comes with enough pressure—don’t let this decision stress you out. Every baby is different, and you’ll figure out what works best through trial and error.
Want to hear more tips? Tune into our podcast, “Co-Sleeping vs. Independent Sleeping,” now streaming on Spotify!
What’s worked for your family? Drop a comment below and let’s chat! 👇
“Don’t go through mumming alone.”
FK Jesuyode
Founder, 5StarMums
